" Cheating has always been my big dealbreaker , and with a family penis ? I could never take care past that . I told him never to contact me again , and so far , he has n’t since . "
1.“My ex-fiancé’s road rage was ridiculous, but in this instance, I knew I was D.O.N.E. We were driving home after dark, and a driver in another lane got too close. It could’ve been an honest mistake. He went ballistic! Started swerving in and out of traffic, then got in front of him in the fast lane around a blind curve and slammed on his brakes in the middle of a freeway! We could’ve easily been killed in a pileup collision. He had the nerve to scream at me, and I mean scream about why couldn’t I ever take his side?!”
" There are no side of meat in road rage . I did n’t speak to him for a calendar week , and when we met for coffee , I asked him if he was run to apologise . He said nothing . Not one word . "
— trendydolphin59
2.“As we were planning the wedding, we went on a trip to Vegas and he got drunk one night and admitted to spending his entire adult life (12 years!) in prison — something he hadn’t mentioned before. During and after that trip, he exhibited some alarming behavior; we broke it off, and I moved back to my home state. I dodged a bullet!”
— redtooth14
3.“I called off my wedding after my fiancé of six years made a mistake the night of our wedding. We had room service, and some of the options were ice cream or pizza, so he asked if I wanted ice cream or pizza. I had asked for ice cream to be brought to our hotel room; it was a destination wedding in Cancún. He replies with, ‘Hey babe, I think I made a mistake.’ So I say, ‘Oh you got pizza?’ and he goes, ‘No, I slept with your sister.'”
" I was flabbergasted , like , what the infernal region does that even signify ? ? ? Anyways , safe to say we are n’t together anymore . "
— 27 , Georgia
4.“I just came to the realization that he actually grated my nerves and that I would not be able to be married to him. He was an immature mama’s boy, and being married to him would be absolute hell.”
" I was quick to be an grownup and take obligation for our life sentence , but he wanted his mother a little too close to us for my liking . I left him , convey healthy , figured out what I need my life to look like , and met a tremendous man ( who is now my hubby ) . We have a beautiful family . Ending my first engagement was the best decision of my life . "
— 26 , Canada
5.“I was engaged to a guy who was a golf pro with dreams of playing professional golf, but he never did well in any smaller tournaments, mostly because he had a drinking problem. He made very little money; I was primarily supporting him, and he had a terrible temper. It’s amazing how easy it is to overlook personality defects when you think you are in love. I made excuses for him, even though his behavior was inexcusable. He ordered me out of the golf cart during a tournament because he made a bad shot and blamed me for making a noise that distracted him. While he rode in the cart for the rest of the tournament, I had to walk in 108-degree weather, and he never apologized.”
" I had an operation , and when I come home after operating theatre , he help me to layer up the stairs and left to play golf game . I was n’t allowed to practice the stairs , so I was stuck upstairs until he return and could bring me food for thought . I finally start up to see him for who he was when I took a job at the golf course where he worked part - sentence . I get to see that he was using me and in conclusion broke up with him . He tried to get me to change my mind , but I was determined to move on . It was really hard untangling our living , especially because I adore his parents who were heartbroken by our separation . I only saw them one time after , but his momma and I corresponded by escargot post for year . A few class later on , I wed a man I ’d live since I was 7 . He is the love of my life-time , and we ’ve been gayly married 25 years . "
— 73 , Arizona
6.“We were together since high school, and he proposed when I graduated college. It was then when we got engaged that everything started to fall apart. He became extremely self-conscious to the point where he was constantly accusing me of cheating on him. If I said I had to go to work, he’d immediately assume I was lying to go meet up with a man??? Which I have never done nor given him a reason to think so. It was over for me when I found out the reason he was doing all of this was because he was cheating on me with my cousin, and he was projecting his guilt onto me.”
" She told me herself and showed me subject matter and pictures — pretty sure her intent was less of coming white and more of getting me out of the pictorial matter . Either manner , it worked ; we never made it to the communion table . He call me a thousand time and was always register up to my momma ’s house ( where I was temporarily staying after I moved out ) to try and accommodate , but cheat has always been my biggest dealbreaker , and with a household phallus ? I do n’t think I could ever look past that . I told him never to get through me again , and so far , he has n’t since . "
— 28 , New York
7.“I wanted to end it as soon as it happened. He took me on an elaborate trip to New York City and proposed in the middle of Central Park…got down on one knee, etc. in front of people no less! The pressure got to me, and I said, ‘Yes,’ when I really meant, ‘Absolutely not!’ For the next couple years, I told myself to suck it up and accept my consequences when the truth remained absolutely not! He became so controlling and volatile that I had to leave in the middle of the day without telling him.”
" A few Clarence Shepard Day Jr. after we broke up , he stalk me once I leave work , following me all over town one night . I could n’t drop off him in dealings until I in the end drive into the police station . He then began to haunt my proficient Quaker to look for me . Sometimes , I guess I dodged a literal bullet on that one . "
— Anonymous , Texas
8.“I kept having the feeling that if I married him, he would quit his job without another job lined up and expect me to support him financially. I felt he was lazy and couldn’t be counted on. He also began to call me names passive-aggressively, which was causing me to doubt the engagement. Sure enough, he left in a huff as if to punish me a day after I had surgery. I called off the engagement then.”
" I later found out he had also been sexting multiple single women the entire time he was go out and charter to me and profess his love to me . What a narcissistic user ! My instincts about him had been on objective . So , if you sense red flags , listen to your gut and move on . "
— 58 , Tennessee
9.“I was 29 at the time, and he was 34; we had been dating for two years before that, living together for one. It was weeks before our wedding, and everything was going mostly to plan. I had been going through my fiancé’s phone because my grocery list was on his phone for some reason, and his phone got a notification from somebody named ‘Lola’ (I’m not going to use any real names for obvious reasons) — I had never heard of nor had he mentioned anybody named ‘Lola.’ Now, I did not mind my fiancé having female friends or as I thought, relatives, but this just felt off. From what I saw, the text started with, ‘Hey love.’ I thought this could be a nickname for his mother, [since it was similar to her name,] though I had never heard her be referred to as ‘Lola’ by anyone.”
" Considering all this , it just felt off , but I neglect it for a few days . Still , I had this nagging notion I should do something about it . finally , I called the wedding ceremony off a week before . At the time , I wondered if calling off the wedding had been too much as if I had destroyed a good kinship . But a few week afterwards , I learned from a friend he had recently been engaged and wed to a girlfriend named ' Lola Davis ' who he had apparently been cheating on me with for calendar month . I was apparently appalled to hear this but thankful for that bowel tactile sensation that had probably saved me a circle of pain . More lately , I pick up that he and Lola had been divorced because he had cheated on Her . I am now happily get married to my current husband who is the love of my life sentence . I ’m still grateful for that gut feeling I had then . "
— 43 , USA
10.“We had the same religion but came from different sects. His parents were not thrilled that he was engaged to me because they didn’t agree with my sectarian background. They wanted him to break things off with me and didn’t come to our engagement party. Right after the party, we came back to my parents’ house, and he proceeded to tell my parents they didn’t raise me and my brother properly. I threw his ring on the lawn and broke it off. He was so rude to my family and had no concern for my feelings.”
" Two years later , I converge a wonderful human beings from unlike religious screen background . His parents love me , and my parents love him . We have been married 18 peaceful twelvemonth . "
— 51 , California
11.“We were recent college grads, and I got a job offer in another country. He was ready to follow me but had absolutely no ambitions or plans of his own. He thought he could just follow me, and then we’d ‘figure it out,’ which sounds romantic at first, but he wasn’t applying for jobs and wasn’t interested in any particular work. We delayed the wedding once because I thought he just needed more time to reflect, but nothing changed. I decided that as much as I loved him and he loved me, I couldn’t respect a shadow. We were too young, and he needed time to develop his own sense of self and his own dreams (so did I, to be honest).”
" He rest to his family / Friend for months and pretend we were still together in the hopes we would see things out . It was devastating , but I ’ve never regretted it . The serious news is that it ’s been over a decade , and we ’ve communicated since and consort it was the right decisiveness . I authentically wish him the infrangible best . "
— 35 , The Netherlands
12.“Five months before the wedding, we were out to dinner. I said that I thought it was time to talk about our finances. He flat-out refused. I got up and walked out. He eventually came out and took me back to where we were staying. Finally, I figured out that he had a massive gambling problem.”
" Even with the promise of getting supporter , I just said nope — I ’m out of here . "
— 71 , USA
13.“There were a lot of things, all of which could’ve been THE reason, but I was young and inexperienced. A few of the things: His friends would hit on me, and he liked it; I didn’t. He started to pick my clothes, which were always more revealing. He didn’t like that I was in college, so I stopped talking about my classes or ambitions. I stopped talking altogether because he also said I wasn’t funny. He wanted kids immediately, and so did his parents, but I wasn’t having that kind of sex with him. I wasn’t saving myself, but it never felt right.”
" When I severalize him I necessitate clock time and felt blackjack to get married right by , he cheated on me , and his momma blamed me . I ’m glad he did . That was patently the one affair I could n’t stick out . "
— 40 , Arizona
14.“I was very young, and he was quite a bit older than me. My cousin, slightly younger than me, wanted to go on a date with her boyfriend. The stipulation given by my strict aunt and uncle for my cousin to go on a date was that I had to chaperone. My fiancé was at work and unreachable, so I didn’t have a chance to tell him that I planned to chaperone my cousin. I went with them to their chosen location of a local mall, and we all perused the stores for two to three hours. That evening, on the phone with my fiancé, I told him that I’d chaperoned my cousin’s date. He was FURIOUS: ‘So you just hung out with another man, huh?'”
" I gain I could n’t pass my life history with that level of petty insecurity and broke it off after almost three years . He proceeded to repeatedly show up drunk at my grandma ’s house , yell about how I was a deceitful and ungrateful ' whore ' for ' hang out with other dudes . ' Dudes , plural form , even though there was only one male person present in the effect in question , and he was literally MY COUSIN ‘S BOYFRIEND . Definitely circumvent many , many bullet by noping out of that one . "
— 32 , USA
And finally…
" He throw in the towel his job and would n’t be able-bodied to help with any bills , no notice or confabulate about it — I just knew I would have to pay up everything since it ’s all in my name . To top it off , I saw his porcine kid picking bugbear and eating them on my favorite chair that my gran gave me . That was the final shuck , I told them both to get out that night . "
— 29 , Michigan
Note : Some responses have been edited for length and/or limpidity .
