" [ She ] told me that it was altogether all right to feel lay waste to by the ' bad news . ' "
The internet has definitely been abuzz the past year or so withdiscussion of self-proclaimed “boy moms,“mothers of sons who…areverrryweird about it.
They might emotionally treat their son as role player - married man . They might post publicly about their jealousy of imaginary future girlfriend . Or , they might even blab about how much they love their sons more than their girl !
Well, recently, Reddit useru/Many-Calligrapher617(or Calligrapher, for short) posted to the popularr/AmITheAssholesubreddit toshare her storyand ask, “Am I the asshole for telling my sister-in-law that she is extremely weird?” Reader, the story she shared is unbelievable:
“So I, 27, am pregnant with my last child,” Calligrapher begins. “My husband and I already have one daughter, and we both feel that two is enough for us. My sister-in-law and my brother, both 30, have four kids; they have one daughter and three sons. I just found out that I am going to have another girl, and we just announced it over dinner.”
“Everyone congratulated us, but after dinner, my sister-in-law took me to the side and told me that it was completely fine to feel devastated by the ‘bad news.'”
“I asked what she meant,” says Calligrapher, “and she told me that even though she loves her daughter, no love compares to the love she feels for her sons.”
Calligrapher goes on: “I told her that I am in no way dissatisfied with the news and I am glad with whatever gender, as long as they are healthy. She told me it was okay to be in denial and that if I ever felt it was too hard on me, I could always talk to her. I walked away but not before I said, ‘You are extremely weird, you know that?'”
“My husband and I left right after,” says Calligrapher, “and later that night my brother texted me telling me off. [He was saying] that his wife was just showing compassion and trying to be understanding; that just because I am sad about it doesn’t mean that she deserves my treatment of her.”
She adds , " I find like I may have been a bit rough on her , because my comrade rarely gets disquieted with people , but he is very upset with me now . "
Not only did commenters overwhelmingly agree that Calligrapher wasnotthe asshole, but they also had alotto say about her family:
“The poor daughter,” saidu/Crazy_Past6259. “I would probably wonder if the daughter is being mistreated and [would] keep an eye on her.”
“[Your sister-in-law] was neither showing compassion nor trying to be understanding. She was projecting her toxic-level ‘boy mom’ attitude on you,” saidu/GothPenguin.
“You should have asked your brother why he and your sister-in-law think you are sad over having a second daughter. Make them explain it,” saidu/CalicoHippo.
In response , u / Lumpy_Marsupial_1559wrote , " And be clear to crony : ' Your married woman dead delineate that she enjoy your sons more and loves your daughter less . Did you know that ? Does she act that fashion ? Does your daughter cognize mommy loves her brothers more than momma loves her ? ' "
“I’m guessing your sister-in-law is one of those weird ‘boy moms,'” wroteu/burner_suplex. “[I second] all the people who are suggesting talking to your brother to make sure your niece is being treated alright compared to her brothers. I’ve heard too many stories of moms favoring their sons and turning their daughters into their sons’ personalCinderella.”
Others validated Calligrapher’s feelings toward her sister-in-law and expressed concern for her brother’s kids. One user,Adorable-Reactions887, wrote, “I probably wouldn’t have been as polite in vocalizing how weird her statement was. She wasn’t showing compassion. She was showing her ass and was upset that you didn’t agree with her whole sentiment of being a ‘boy mom’ like it’s the only thing worth being a parent for.”
" I feel for your niece , but I also concern that your nephews are plump to have some major issues in afterwards lifewith her .
" If your brother keeps on [ about this ] , I would unquestionably enquire him if he knowswhyyou telephone her weird . Because as much as grammatical gender dashing hopes is a thing ( and weird AF),youdon’t feel that way , you ’re not in demurrer , and you have nothing to sense distressing OR bad about . If they feel some kind of way about having a daughter , then they both demand to attend at themselves rather than trying to force and push their way of thinking on you . "
I probably would have had stronger words to say to the sister-in-law, too. Let me know alllll your thoughts below; and if you have any stories about out-of-pocket things relatives have said toyou, please feel free to share!
