" On a 19 - hour flight , he booked himself up front in business class and put me in the back with our four tike ( with a baby on my lap ) . When I require him to switch places with me for two out of those 19 hours , he order me he could n’t believe how selfish I was being . "
Recently, Reddit useru/RobertstKA15r4asked the people ofr/AskReddit, “What did your partner do that made you suddenly understand they weren’t right for you?” Here are some of the most-upvoted responses:
1.“We were fighting all the time. I’d try to leave and he’d love-bomb me. At some point, I just asked him to make some effort to treat me with some kindness. He replied that he refused to do that because it would be ‘a lie’.”
" I realised that at the most canonic spirit level , he just did n’t like me , but think of me as a toy he did n’t want to miss . "
u / TwinkleFey
2.“We were walking to a restaurant and casually chatting. I off-handedly tried to remember what I was up to a couple of days prior (it made sense in the context of the conversation). He cut me off and said, ‘probably sleeping in and doing nothing all day.'”
" It was just a jab to be injurious , no jumper cable - up to it at all . Not that it should weigh , but I had a course credit card , elevator car , and the term of a contract on our theater all in my name — he had none of those . He worked part - fourth dimension as a waiter but could n’t bear out himself , while I paid all our pecker . He did n’t need to be on the lease because he did n’t desire to feel tied down . He was profoundly insecure and I pretend it just came out , he demand to knock me down a peg when he start the opportunity . I dumped him over dinner party at the restaurant . "
u / thegirlfromcr
3.“They told me that I wasn’t allowed to struggle when they were struggling because it invalidated their feelings.”
u / jijiinthesky
4.“It wasn’t my partner, but a friend. I was venting about my then-boyfriend to a friend I didn’t see too often when she stopped me and asked, ‘Do you even like him as a person? Would you be his friend if you weren’t dating?'”
" We broke up concisely after . It was an heart - opening move doubt . "
u / ARuinerOfThings
5.“He gleefully told me about how he screamed at some teenage cashier at a restaurant because she accidentally double-charged him. He told me ‘It felt good to yell at someone who actually deserved it.’ He went on about how mean he was to her, how he yelled at her. He was so HAPPY. My jaw was on the floor.”
u / SirSteg
6.“I dated a woman for a year. The day she was to start moving in with me, she told me my cat had to go. I told her that wasn’t going to happen. She told me I had to choose, her or the cat. I told her goodbye! Never saw her again.”
u / Emergency_Brief_9280
7.“I realised I was parenting him instead of being with him.”
u / SailorVenus23
8.“My (ex) husband said I should get pregnant because it would ‘give me something to do.’ I was already working two jobs.”
u / anythingaustin
9.“They called me a burden when I was a guest at their house.”
u / PKblaze ·
10.“He said he’d hurt my pet cats if I didn’t check out of the hospital RIGHT NOW and come home to sort his dinner. Needless to say when he came home the next day neither me nor the cats were there, but the cops were.”
u / AliceMorgon
11.“On a 19-hour flight, he booked himself up front in business class and put me in the back with our four kids (including the baby on my lap). When I asked him to switch places with me for two out of those 19 hours, he told me he couldn’t believe how selfish I was being.”
u / Miss - Indie - Cisive
12.“He, who at the time was homeless and jobless and living in his car with his dog, told me, who lived in a nice townhome with roommates, worked full time, and was going to school for my BA, that I really needed to get my life together. He was a manipulative and gaslighting loser who didn’t deserve the six months he got with me.”
u / Isnortcoffeegrounds
13.“He applied for a new job in a city 2.5 hours away from where we lived and only told me about it when he was already about to accept the offer. I tried to be supportive but I felt so lonely throughout the week when he was gone in a city that wasn’t even my home to begin with.”
u / Beneficial - Bee7765
14.“I was violently ill (cryptosporidium) and could barely leave bed for about a week. He made dinner for himself one night and left the dishes in the sink and a mess in the kitchen. He got home from work the next evening and the first thing he said to me was ‘well, I can see you did nothing all day.’ I asked what he meant and said ‘the kitchen is a mess!'”
u / ExoticRooster9889
15.“We were having an argument and emotions were high. He made sure to move into a room in our apartment that had a mirror so he could watch himself cry from time to time during said argument. There were many red flags, but that one stuck out as top-tier narcissism.”
u / annadromeda_galaxy ·
16.“They made fun of me for ‘still’ crying about the passing of my dog a week after she passed away.”
u / Lights0ut-
17.“He got into a confrontation with someone who was using the dryer in their laundry room for longer than one cycle. He took their clothes out of the dryer and put his into it because ‘it was not their turn.’ He said he’d fight them if they disagreed — ditched him ASAP.”
u / vanchica
18.“Our cat climbed onto their leg while we were laying in bed, and when they moved a bit, the cat instinctively extended its claws and hung on to keep from falling off. Instead of just saying ‘ouch’ or gently moving the cat off their leg, they picked the cat up and threw it against the wall.”
u / Particular_Pin_5040
19.“My big ‘ah-ha’ moment was when I realised I was happiest when he came home, and he was happiest when I left.”
u / theganjaoctopus
20.“He ditched me to go play tennis with his roommate the day I found out my dad had cancer. He then complained because he left his jacket there and was afraid someone would steal it.”
u / ebeach2
21.“When I developed severe PTSD after experiencing an attack at work: my ex-husband said, ‘I wish I could have a nervous breakdown and have a vacation too.’ And he meant it.”
u / tongshize
22.“My second ex-wife told everyone she had cancer, including her own kids. She didn’t have cancer.”
" turn out I married someone who very skillfully hid the fact that they had severe , undiagnosed histrionic personality disorderliness . She was even capable to conceal this from medical professional and psychologists and would give them false entropy to get the prescription she wanted .
When I discovered the ruse , that was it . Immediate divorce . "
u / Daggertooth71
23.“I told him I was a little depressed. He asked, ‘Is it because you haven’t done anything with your life?'”
u / Goodygumdops ·
24.“When, at the thought of potentially being proposed to, I had a panic attack instead of being excited.”
u / hey_scooter_girl ·
Shout out tou/RobertstKA15r4andr/AskRedditfor having this discussion.
Note : submission have been edited for duration and/or clarity .
