" I was disappointed that my hubby told me , ' You are not my mother ' and ' I did n’t do anything for my kids ' mother , so why would I do something for you ? ' "
So, Mother’s Day was last weekend, and while scrolling through my feed — in the midst of all of the sweet messages — I stumbled upon this enraging post by redditorTangerninePast7416, who said her husband claimed it wasn’t his job to celebrate her on Mother’s Day, despite her being a mom to their six children.
I almost threw my phone when I read this one. Here’s the fullstory: “Background: Been married to my husband for two- and-a-half years. I have three children and three stepchildren.”
" Not only is it Mother ’s Day , but also my mother ’s birthday . His mother ’s birthday was last hebdomad . I think of the present , buy it , plan a dinner for her , regulate it , and bought the bar . She want to keep with her 98 - class - old mother today . I did the same matter for my mother today . He vacuum before my parent came over , grilled the steaks and Salmon River , and help clean up after dinner . That is it . "
“I show up for all my stepkids' performances, games, and school events. I plan their birthday parties and buy all their presents. The same goes for Christmas. I remind him of all of these events.”
" He seldom even get laid what I get them . I do the same on any authoritative vacation for him — natal day , anniversaries , Valentine ’s Day , Father ’s Day , and Christmas . "
“Hardly anything happened for me today. Two of my kids said, ‘Happy Mother’s Day.'”
My 11 - year - erstwhile stepdaughter also said it and gave me a very cute shock of all the things she loves about me . My 16 - yr - old Logos recite me the present he bought me wo n’t total until tomorrow . My 13 - twelvemonth - erstwhile daughter severalize me that she take my husband by schoolbook to help her with several things , and he never answer . When she had asked me what I want , I recount her update picture for my federal agency , know it would n’t be expensive to just print some of our favorite photos , and it would mean a flock to me . "
“I was disappointed. I was disappointed that all I asked of my 18-year-old son was to take a new picture with me, and he couldn’t be bothered.”
" I was disappointed that my husband told me , ' You are not my mother ' and ' I did n’t do anything for my kids ' mother , so why would I do something for you . ' "
“I am hurt, and I feel bad for feeling hurt. I feel selfish. He did help with dinner, but I would have liked a ‘Happy Mother’s Day’ from him and maybe a card.”
" Bonus points if he could understand that helping the 13 - yr - old print some image would intend a fortune to her and me . That would have made me find valued and special . "
“I don’t need the spa day, breakfast in bed, being celebrated every moment like my brother does for his wife. And I’m so happy for her that he does that. That isn’t my husband’s personality. I would never expect that.”
" But is it too assholey to just need a little understanding and appreciation for all the things that I do for all our kids , even if it is a commercial-grade vacation ? He says that I ’m mean and an arsehole for being upset . I did n’t yell and scream , just cried , and did n’t want him to cuddle me to facilitate his own anxiousness . "
I am in utter disbelief at this woman’s husband and the fact that he felt comfortable saying, “Why would I do something for you?” TO HER FACE when she’s literally raising his six kids. It’s wild. “The bar was on the floor, and he still slid under it,” userlupuscrepusculumagreed.
He’s about to be in for a rude awakening on Father’s Day.
" you may kindly repay the favour on Father ’s Day by not doing a fucking thing for him and remind him he ’s not your Father of the Church , so there ’s nothing to celebrate , " usergarlicheesebreadagreed .
The kids are clearly learning from their dad that their mom/stepmom isn’t valued.
" I think you should take a step back and mate everyone ’s ( over 18 ) energy , " userSeeHearSpeak0said . " If they do n’t want to put an oz. of get-up-and-go into caring about you , it ’s ok to direct the care and energy that you put into them to yourself . "
Not everyone is on the woman’s side; in fact, one userNovaPrime1988, defended the husband’s actions.
" Look , your children are old enough to celebrate Mother ’s Day with you . These holidays are for fry to celebrate their parents . Not husbands and wives . At least not when children are old enough to do this themselves . "
Sadly, this type of treatment isn’t rare and is often a sign that the woman is not valued in the relationship. “Five years ago, on Mother’s Day, I worked a nearly 14-hour day in food service, and Mother’s Day is crazy. Half an hour after I got home, my ex asked me what I was cooking for dinner,” userWakingOw1said.
" I enunciate , ' It ’s Mother ’s Day , and I just worked 14 hours ; maybe you could falsify dinner . ' He told me , ' You ’re not MY mother . ' We ’d been together 35 eld at that gunpoint , and I was vacillate whether or not I want to remain together any longer . That was the shuck that broke the camel ’s back . "
