" My MIL is the type of mortal who loves aid , whether bad or serious and can not support when someone else has the spotlight . "
Planning a wedding is both a blissful and stressful time, to say the least. Whether you’re planning a small intimate wedding or something more extravagant, odds are you and your significant other want things a certain way to your liking.
Well, it doesn’t help when you have an in-law who wants to overstep boundaries and doesn’t know their place in the wedding planning. This redditorsharedtheir situation in ther/JUSTNOMILsubreddit, and my jaw is on the floor after reading their story.
" My MIL is the type of person who loves care , whether bad or good , and can not endure when someone else has the spot . Factor that into the fact I was the BRIDE on my hymeneals 24-hour interval ; who would have thought eyes might be on my better half and me ? ( Cue sarcasm ) .
Leading up to this retiring weekend , my MIL want to wear a very promiscuous beige / white lacing dress to the marriage ceremony — which my hubby vetoed . That was a vast deal — saying she did n’t need to come to our wedding and that I was ' not making a good commencement to an in - law human relationship , ' mind you , I ’ve been with her boy for eight years , so our relationship has already begun . She also enjoin my husband should not get hitched with me , lol , " the OP wrote .
Note : Some of this submission has been edited for length and/or clarity .
“Fast forward to the rehearsal dinner. My MIL and FIL (who is just a saint, actually) paid for the rehearsal dinner. She told everyone and her mother how she paid $1,200 for the rehearsal dinner after vetoing multiple restaurants and choosing the cheapest option farthest from our stay. She said it multiple times in her speech. My parents graciously offered to pay for my now husband and I’s wedding, but they never even spoke about it or bragged,” wrote the OP.
It gets worse! “On to the wedding day. She came into my wedding suite when I was in my dress, to which I said ‘hello!’ with a huge grin on my face — she locked eyes with me and walked right past me. The entire time did not compliment me but complimented all of my bridesmaids. She ruined my husband’s and her first look because ‘she didn’t want to wait for a photographer’ and then complained they had no photos of the two, even though I arranged the first look for them,” the OP wrote.
" She was complaining about the family photo time , saying she wanted to join the cocktail 60 minutes because there were ' people there who want to babble with her , ' to which I told her she was more than welcome to go and that we were right on schedule . She sat in the yard death chair by herself and pouted with her coat of arms crossed . At the start of the ceremony , she thanked my married man ’s side for supporting my husband as ' his side was swooning ' because she force us to take in distant relatives , and 30 + did n’t show . She talked extremely obstreperously during all speeches and complained when my dad was ' taking too long , ' " wrote the OP .
The OP continued, writing, “Next morning, my mom and dad hosted brunch and had us all come over for breakfast before people departed. My MIL came and complained about the DJ and photographer for 30+ minutes to anyone who would listen. Then she complained that my mother said brunch started at noon but began at 11 (it was always 11). She hissed at my mom for ‘not enough food being there for her family’ as my mother was slaving over the stove. My husband had told her to stop four times until she said, ‘Bad news, no more food!’ when new guests arrived (there was an island full of food). I turned quickly and said, ‘Enough, please,’ as my mother was almost in tears. My husband says, ‘Mom, you’re being insulting,” while whispering in her ear away from everyone.'”
After sharing a few more representative that took place that weekend , OP land up by asking for advice : " How do I navigate this ? ? ? I do not want a family relationship with her , but the residual of the family is normal and I have a go at it them more than anything . The memory of my wedding is tainted . I ’m trying to be confirming , but it ’s hard . Other than all of the above , we had a wonderful weekend . "
Woof, that was a doozy! Over 50 commenters chimed in, offering their advice and showing empathy towards this new bride.
This commenter offered some solid advice, too.
This commenter brought up a lot of valid points in their advice.
