" get too comfy with doing the au naturel minimum . Take them on dates and purchase them flowers before you bid you could again . "
While it’s easy to blame an ex for the ruin of a relationship, sometimes we realise we’re the ones who made a mistake…
So, whenu/udnagasked people toshare the mistake that caused the end of their relationship, we decided to round up some of the most upvoted responses:
1.“Focusing on all of the things they aren’t giving you instead of all the things they do give you.”
2.“Telling my friends about all of our fights.”
u / alliereev
" x100 . My wife actually taught me this . The engagement will be over , but now you have friends who are not only keep a preconception opinion of your married person , but it ’s like you are showing them a side of your pardner that is n’t ordinarily a matter , but they can now think less of your relationship . "
u / VermicelliJealous949
3.“I took a nap one day, she thought I was cheating. One big blowup argument later, I found out she was cheating on me.”
u / Aangs - correlation756
4.“Accommodation to avoid any conflict. At the time I was working through a lot of childhood trauma and I didn’t know better, now I do.”
5.“Getting too comfortable with doing the bare minimum. Take them on dates and buy them flowers before you wish you could again.”
u / Cheesy_Whisker
6.“Staying quiet waiting for the appropriate time to communicate.”
" I created an unneeded , nerve-wracking environs that could have been avoided by just talking it through instantly . Thought I was doing the right affair by waiting for a better time . "
u / Own - Being-1973
7.“Trying to do everything I could to make him more comfortable, to unhealthy extents. He had a short fuse, so I often ignored my own wants and needs in order to not stir the pot.”
8.“I’ve tanked a lot of relationships by thinking everything needed to be fixed. I almost did it in the one I’m in.”
" He ’s in a bad mood , he ’s being rakish with me , we need to fix this , I necessitate to sit down and have a heart to eye , I involve to COMMUNICATE that he ’s bruise my feel right now . I ’m excessively therapised and really thought this was the best way to handle everything . "
u / relentpersist
9.“I was a ‘if they want me to know, they’ll tell me’ person married to a ‘if they care about me, they’d ask’ person.”
u / KieshaK
10.“Jealousy. I made this mistake for years.”
11.“I once made the mistake of assuming my partner could read my mind. I kept my feelings bottled up, thinking they would somehow understand what I needed without me having to say it outright. Eventually, this led to misunderstandings and tension in our relationship.”
u / GlobalBreak311
12.“Allowing my partner to step back or ‘slack’ when it comes to big life events. We purchased a home and I did EVERYTHING. It created resentment. Our relationship has never been the same. He had allowed me to do everything for so long but the house situation was a breaking point.”
u / JollyBid477
13.“Being too clingy. It was my first relationship and I continued to lovebomb and be clingy to my ex even after he got a new boyfriend.”
14.“Compared everything in our relationship with others. Trust me, it really is an unhealthy habit.”
u / Dafuq5280
15.“Not giving them enough space, and not taking space for myself if I felt hurt by something. I think the real mistake is that I just didn’t like being alone with myself, which talking to some friends, seems to be pretty common.”
H/T tou/udnagand AskReddit for having this discussion!
Note : All submissions have been edited for duration and/or limpidity .
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