" It ’s so normalized how expensive health care is , and it ’s have multitude to die out or not look for treatment because they are worried about the monetary value . One humiliated arm subsequently , and you ’re $ 10,000 in debt . "
We recentlyaskedtheBuzzFeed Communityto tell us the standards that have become “normal” in the US, even though they’re actually toxic. Here’s what they had to say:
1.“No affordable childcare. No paid leave, so if you need to go back to work, your kid is in daycare. (Don’t even get me started on women shamed for sending their kids to daycare.) That can cost up to $2,000 per kid per month. It varies, obviously, but it’s ridiculous.”
" There is a daycare opening near me , andthe waitlist is at $ 1,500 , and it has n’t even open up for business yet!!!Not only is day care expensive , there just is n’t enough of it . "
— 36 , Virginia
2.“The pursuit of becoming a multimillionaire. The ‘you, too, can be rich’ idea has always been a part of the American Dream, but obtaining material wealth as quickly as possible has become priority number one. I’m a teacher, and many of my students just want to become rich fast — those who I’ve talked to about this have career goals that aren’t necessarily easy to attain or don’t have an immediate monetary payoff.”
" Some want to become societal media influencers , others professional streamers or sports mavin . fiscal stability is important , but so is being naturalistic . "
— 44 , Florida
3.“The ridiculous price of healthcare. One broken arm later, and you’re $10,000 in debt. It’s so normalized how expensive healthcare is, and it’s causing people to die or not seek treatment because they are worried about the costs.”
" It ’s a terrible arrangement , and it makes me so angry ; if you require invariant medical appointments , such as psychological science or oecumenical GP for prescription refills , the cost is derisory . "
— 19 , Illinois
4.“The credit and loan-based culture has become nearly a necessity if you want to have even the basics of a house and car. And the ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ mentality also feeds into the credit system.”
" Constantly buy a clump of stuff and nonsense , but it ’s all cheaply made and fracture in two hebdomad . "
— chak777
5.“For working women, especially mothers, there’s this expectation that you gotta have everything under control and doing everything perfectly. Like, you’re supposed to be able to take care of the baby, nail that conference call, cook dinner, and clean the house all at once, all while doing it perfectly with a smile on your face, no complaints.”
— xy8lu
" cleaning woman are so exploit to a decimal point where everyone around them wait them to get ' used to it . ‘Fathers do n’t help around the home . or else , old child are go forth creditworthy and then ridiculed for failing when they ’re being a ' mother ' at the age of 15 . "
— crunchychicken82
6.“In high schools, college applications are ruining all the teens’ intrinsic motivation. Everything they do is for the college apps, and competition between students has gotten toxic. Because of this, academic dishonesty is also on the rise (ChatGPT is not helping). Teens aren’t engaged in classrooms.”
" stripling do n’t catch some Z’s enough due to their workloads , and social medium has destroyed their genial health . "
— fluffykid74
7.“Extravagant birthday parties for children. What happened to inviting some friends, baking a simple cake (or buying one), and letting the kids play? Nowadays, parents spend hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars on parties with (wasteful) balloon arches, character appearances, professional catering, special outfits…the list goes on.”
" Why does a 5 - year - sure-enough need a watering place birthday with robe , hair , make-up , and feign mimosa ? WHY????I have a 10- and 6 - twelvemonth - old and have seen my fair share of ridiculous parties — and it ’s only getting uncollectible . Letting our child lose sight of what ’s actually important ( spending time with those you bang ) and replacing it with a bunch of superficial B.S. is setting them up to be spoiled brat . "
— silvercadet56
8.“Hustle culture. Not everything needs to be monetized. You’re allowed to do things just for fun, or just do nothing after a long day at work.”
— flyerboy6
9.“The cost of living for middle class is to the point of legalized stealing. All the wealthy know, and they don’t care. This is why I am more deliberate of where and what I spend my money on.”
" Also , the want of a balanced sprightliness is the crack in the full foundation of our overrun lifestyle . Our cognitive abilities to make decisions , everything from day - to - day to tenacious - term planning , are extremely impacted by the fact that we mould five days a hebdomad or more . I only count weekends as time spent with family because the two whole hours I get with my Word after employment each day are just enough to get basic want met . The moneyed and powerful have coif UP middle - form lives this way , so it ’s unacceptable to get onwards . involve to go to the Dr. ? You ’ll need to take PTO or go without pay . There will be no PTO left for ' vacations . ' We are gear up up to fail — so no , we are not the trouble . "
— amdionese17
10.“Acting like being poor is a result of laziness or stupidity; instead of addressing the root of wealth and income inequality, we vilify being poor. It’s either because they ‘don’t want to work’ or are ‘bad with their money.’ Even in times of low unemployment, so many jobs don’t pay enough to make ends meet, even living frugally. They are also typically part-time and incompatible with having another part-time job.”
" Andoftentimes , ' smart ' money decisions are n’t potential for someone with no savings because they often expect spending more money upfront to save money later . And why do they have no savings ? Their chore does n’t make up enough , and they ca n’t get ahead of bills and expenses . Yet we move like this is all their geological fault . "
— 41 , Minnesota
11.“The obsession with having a four-year degree. My generation was pushed to get a degree just because. Yes, it opened up opportunities for some people, but many others spent all this time, have all this debt, and can’t even get a job in their field. Now, we have an entire generation of people who are very book-smart but have to hire someone to do every repair around the house or on our cars.”
" I differentiate my kids that I ’m totally behind them if they desire to get a workable point , but that ’s not their only track . For their contemporaries , the real money will likely be in the dark - collar line ; everyone needs these line of work done , but no one wants or knows how to do them . "
— 39 , Texas
12.“Tipping culture. Pay the employees, please. Some employees guilt-trip you if you don’t.”
— 17 , USA
13.“Over-committing your children to extracurricular activities. Everyone thinks their kid is ‘the best’ at something and forces them into countless extracurricular activities. We’ve lost the art of having dinner around a dinner table, doing homework, and spending time together. Everyone’s always on the move and stressed past appropriate levels.”
— 38 , Florida
" The sports compulsion , particularly when it comes to being severely on your Kid about them . "
14.“Feeling like you can’t call out sick because of the financial and emotional burden of ‘being part of a team.’ You’re manipulated from childhood to adulthood that working hard is what you must do; if you’re not, you’re inconveniencing others. Forget that there can be enough people on a shift to cover your spot or that it’s a bigger disadvantage to having someone sick on a shift — productivity and teamwork are what matters!”
" It sucks knowing that a common musical phrase in the American workplace is ' if you collapse , I ’ll step over your body and continue working ! ' I ’ve get wind it at every line of work I ’ve ever worked at , and even my family shames me for need to call out . "
— reneb4b1d76327
15.“This might be a generational thing, but I don’t understand why some American parents abruptly stop supporting their children once they turn 18 and expect them to be fully independent after that. The children didn’t ask to be born; if you don’t want to take on the burden of childcare, then don’t have children. You don’t suddenly stop being a parent because your child is a legal adult — you still have a responsibility to love and support them and encourage them in their pursuit of independent living.”
" I ’ve heard of people being kvetch out of their parents ' theatre the day they change state 18 . That ’s natural state . "
— 29 , Sweden
16.“Lack of paid parental leave. ZERO days. ZERO hours of paid parental leave. Twenty-five percent of women go back to work TWO WEEKS after giving birth. Parents get ZERO days of guaranteed leave to be with their newborns. And we live in a society that will absolutely chastise you if you don’t breastfeed. How can anyone do that if they’re immediately back at work?”
" Some European countries start maternity leaveeight weeks BEFOREthe infant is due . Can you imagine ? We do n’t get eight weeks , period . Then , depend on the place , they get anywhere fromsix months to three years of leave . Even if it ’s not only 100 % full pay … doesn’t matter . Your line of work is promise to be there for you when you get back . And guess what ? Even if you get live in the US , people you work with care for it like you pass on a vacation . "
17.“Working yourself to death. In my family, ‘dying at your desk’ is considered the greatest way to pass away. My grandfather worked right up until his death at 87, and it was considered a great honor in my family that he canceled his business appointments before dying in the ER that morning. Later, I realized that meant he never was able to slow down and enjoy the last years of his life because he was needlessly working up until the end.”
" And part of the reason he was still working was because of a two - class Erolia minutilla recovering from an injury when he be with us and had to keep work to pay off the medical debt he incurred . It did n’t come about to me that this was unpaired until I grew up and met masses who had sack out in their 60s , andthat was when I realise that no one in my family ever really hit the hay . "
— 42 , Georgia
18.“The pledge of allegiance. That is just indoctrination getting little kids to pledge their lives to their country as if America hasn’t got any problems at all.”
" Also , health care . How can you call yourselves a first - world commonwealth with multitude ruin by medical bills and dying of preventable causes ? "
— comfyaardvark25
19.“Federal minimum wage has been $7.25 since 2009!!!!!!!!! It’s just accepted.”
20.“The loss of community and a lack of leisure time and free public spaces to spend time in.”
21.“Turning higher education into such a hard and expensive competition, especially when you aren’t going for a particularly competitive position or know what you want to do initially. There’s no sense in going into debt because you want to prove yourself by getting into the ‘best school,’ when honestly, you tend to get out of education whatever you put into it.”
" debate staying at family and going to community of interests college to take core curriculum because English Comp , Algebra , Foreign Language , P.E. , etc . are close enough to the same class everywhere . Want to get wind from Ivy professor ? Do your four - year in - state and watch the Ivy prof ' lectures online for gratis , or tally the books they wrote out from your school library . If you require or demand redundant money , consider earning it by working with a team alternatively of vie for eruditeness . broadcast like AmeriCorps , NCCC , and VISTA offer education awards equal to a year of Max Pell . "
— leffeman
22.“The standards for women: Must be thin, young girls ‘must’ wear expensive skin care products, oh, and the misogyny!”
" Just because I ’m female does n’t signify I do n’t sleep with what I ’m talk about ! ! ! particularly about cars , welding , husbandry , engineering , using my force , cultures , or the military machine ! ! ! ! I can know and do stuff ! ! "
And finally…
23.“If you can’t afford rent, all the blame is on you, not your employer. Corporate officers own mansions while the rest of the employees struggle to pay for an apartment without getting roommates. The wage gap is just way too substantial, and it’s negatively affecting market price. A studio apartment costs $1,400/month because of the $6 billion McMansion down the street.”
" Another is the arithmetic mean that I should just move . I was born here , andif I had the thousands of dollar sign it required to pick up my integral family unit and move , I would n’t have to care about the looming threat of homelessness . "
— pbbt
notice : Some responses have been edited for duration and/or clearness .
