" This is something that is more democratic amongst untested teens and unfortunately preteens . The style of mewing — if you do n’t know , it ’s where you send your tongue on the roof of your mouth , and supposedly , if you do it long enough you ’ll have a more refined jawline . I ’ve see nipper ( ripened 11 - 13 unremarkably ) who will make fun of others for not mewing or not feature a refined jawline . "
Recently, IaskedtheBuzzFeed Communitywhat they think is the most ridiculous beauty standard in today’s society.
Here are 21 of their top responses:
1.“OMG, I’ve got SO many…but one that bugs me right now is the ‘clean girl’ look that actually requires a LOT of make-up and personal care to maintain. I have blotchy skin and still break out sometimes. I’m over 30. My skin is NOT going to look ‘dewy’ and ‘clean’ without concealer and powder. I’ve heard WAY too many men talk about how they just want an ‘ordinary’ girl who looks ‘natural.’ Sorry, butHailey Bieberdoes NOT just wake up looking that way. It’s a toxic trend that promotes the idea that women are supposed to look perfect naturally.”
" Well before the ' fair girl’aesthetic , I remember my college fresher year roomy told me that when she got married , she design to always wake up a few hours before her husband to do her hair and makeup so that he never fancy her looking ' mussy . '
At the clock time ( I was 18 ) , I imagine that sounded like a good estimate . I ’m older now and I ’ve been with my cooperator for a foresightful meter , and I frankly do n’t CARE what he thinks of how I front in the good morning . I know I broadly look like 10 miles of risky road , but so does he when he wake up up ! I do n’t have any ' natural peach ' at 8 a.m. when I can scarce get my eye exposed . While I wear make - up and like to wear it , I do n’t like the idea about what woman are naturally ' supposed ' to attend like all the time . If you ’re into the clean girl trend , OK , but do n’t pretend that feel happens without a LOT of cooking . "
— jaimeweida
2.“This is something that is more popular amongst young teens and unfortunately preteens. The trend of mewing — if you don’t know, it’s where you place your tongue on the roof of your mouth, and supposedly, if you do it long enough, you’ll have a more refined jawline. I’ve seen kids (aged 11–13 usually) who will make fun of others for not mewing or not having a refined jawline.”
" I do n’t mind if you mew , but do n’t make sport of others for not doing it , or make a vainglorious stack about it ! "
— pokem0n_lov3r
3.“You can be fat, but you have to be the RIGHT KIND of fat, meaning no belly fat of any kind. You have to be shaped like a bass violin, with big butt and thighs, but your belly has to be flat as a pancake. Anyone with an ‘apron belly’ is immediately disqualified as beautiful.”
" Your boobs must be huge too , and the EXACT SAME SIZE . No dissymmetry here ! * oculus roll * "
— SarahDaugherty
" As a fat woman who has always carried my weight in my belly , I get this ! It ’s so unusual too that this type of fat emplacement is so shamed . I operate in medication . and the ' fat venter ' mark is real .
I remember so many people conceive incorrectly that fat bellies number from beer , inadequate lifestyle pick , or from being an immoral someone . I believe so much of this stigma is really about classism .
I have a big , fertile belly from genetics and also stress . I have extremely gamey rate of cortisol due to being in an impoverished environment and being raised in dysfunction . I ca n’t demand my brain stop secrete hormones .
Even when I have turn a loss weightiness or set off exercising and deepen my diet , I still have a adult , sure-enough belly … But people honestly think I am an unintelligent , unworldly , and crass person because of where my weight is . "
— mcdonaldbridgetann
4.“The trend of teenagers buying all this skincare they DON’T NEED. All someone that age should be starting with is a cleanser and moisturizer, maybe a toner if they’re acne prone. But whoever is coaching these kids that they need expensive anti-aging products needs to be stopped.”
" I was in Sephora a few weeks ago , and it was just flooded with kids neutralize their money . Have fun with makeup . I know I did , but I never fussed over needing the gamey - end whatever just to houseclean my face with . I just used what was at the drugstore , and I still have great - looking peel . "
— panda_13
5.“Whole body deodorant. I don’t want bad BO from my pits either, but this is just adding to the expectations that our biology shouldn’t smell and is something we should be embarrassed about if we can’t hide it.”
" There are sensible places that fragranced products should not go . "
— sarahleyman11
6.“That ‘aging well’ means not only looking like you haven’t aged, but looking like you haven’t tried to look like you haven’t aged.”
" In realism , you may be 80 , appear 80 , and be fucking gorgeous . "
— sarahbird
7.“I mean, this has been a thing for forever, but fad diets that are hard and unreasonable to maintain for a certain look that doesn’t fit your body type. It’s good to eat healthy and exercise, but let your body naturally do its thing too. Genetics play a role in your body shape too, and there is nothing wrong with it!”
" comprehend your natural body shape ! "
— sweetpenguin21
8.“Wanting women to have children but not look like they have children — no sagging, no tired eyes, etc.”
— volkihar
9.“The ‘perfect’ postpartum body is such a joke. My boobs are practically sacks now, my butt has dissolved, and I still have a small belly bump. It’s been a year since I had my second baby. It’s wild to me that we are made to believe that our bodies are just supposed to magically ‘bounce back’ after growing and birthing a child.”
" And let ’s be honest , a lot of our bodies will never ' take a hop back ' disregardless of how much we work out or how we consume . Pregnancy changes us drastically . It ’s natural and hard and beautiful ! "
— youngjaguar28
10.“Wearing makeup to be considered ‘put together.’ Like…why can’t I just show up with my regular face?”
— ivyb4d9113591
11.“I am 52, and part of me wants to get fillers and botox all over. But everyone who does that for any period of time looks just like everyone else who does it. I want to look like me.”
" I am beautiful now , and label from reckon at my ma , I ’ll be beautiful at 80 . "
— born_with_no_bones
12.“Keeping up with looking youthful. We age. I don’t know why this is a bad thing. We have our time when we are teens and in our 20s and 30s, but starting at our 40s, skin loses elasticity and we start our next chapter. AND THAT’S NOT A BAD THING, for fuck’s sake. It is a privilege to become older and get grayer and have wrinkles and smile lines.”
" I ’m rent my whisker go gray , and yes , I do moisturize and wash away my skin , but I ’ve contain with full makeup and will refuse all fillers and OR . It ’s pointless and a waste of money to try and outrun the clock . Embrace it . "
— morgan_le_slay
13.“That big girls only look ‘good’ if they still have a small waist.”
" Big hips , thighs , and tits , but a little waist is like finding a unicorn . "
— luxahoy
14.“I hate that people are saying hip dips are a problem.”
" get hip plunge just intend you ’re a normal , good for you human being . "
— dazzlingdaisy21
15.“That gray hair ages a woman, but makes a man a fox.”
— roken
16.“I still get blasted about having a pixie cut, by both men and women, and I find it so disgusting.”
" When I got significant , my baby - in - law said , ' Oh , that ’s so good . Now you may take pre - KwaZulu-Natal and develop out your hair’s-breadth . ' I wish I could reel squawk . "
— monkeybuttmom
17."‘You should put on more makeup to cover up your flaws.’ But when I do, it’s, ‘you’re wearing so much makeup, you don’t need to cover yourself up so much.'"
" So I take it off , and they say , ' You look tired , are you okay ? ' "
— mollay
18.“Fat bodies [can’t exist] without being criticized for ‘glorifying obesity.’ …Even videos of fat people going to the gym are mocked or shamed — fucking ridiculous.”
— cnilechild
I have seen this even on GYM photograph .
The wicked swine who work this elbow room never cease to remember or are remind by others that this is a unknown , and they do not know what is go on with someone ’s strong-arm wellness or soundbox . "
— rleeshelton17
19.“People forgetting makeup is a form of art. You don’t have to be good at it to enjoy it. You wash your canvas away every night. It’s ok to just have fun with it.”
— lauragipe23
20.“Flawless skin is a beauty trend that shouldn’t be normalized. I’m always so insecure about my breakouts, but it’s a normal thing, and I know it.”
— barrjohanna9905
21.And finally: “EVERYTHING to do with being a woman! How have we reached a point at which ‘beauty’ entails a $300 hair appointment every six weeks, professionally manicured nails and toes every month, regular Botox injections, teeth whitening, a perfectly flat stomach, and zero body fat — but you better also have curves in the right places? Don’t forget to shave yourself bare head to toe, and then top everything off with hundreds of dollars in skincare and makeup and the mandatory spray tan. Not to mention the ever-growing list of accessories and clothing. You need the Lulu leggings, the pastel Stanley, and everything else just to look the part.”
" Being an ' attractive ' fair sex be a wild amount of prison term and money and travail to closely take after trend . If you revel doing all that , more power to you . But I hard believe we have been educate to chase a sealed banner that is becoming increasingly undue . "
— jordanj4510e968d
Note : Some responses have been edited for length / clarity .
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