From giving kids no social organization to using them as a pawn against the other parent , these are just some of the behaviour hoi polloi finger should be avoided at all costs .

It’s often said that parenting is the hardest job in the world, and as any parent will tell you, it can be extremely stressful and challenging at times. To add to the pressure, you want to do everything right for your child, but, of course, there is no manual on how to do things right.

However, sometimes parents unintentionally or carelessly do things that are actually terrible for their kids (both in the short and long term). Recently, I came across thisReddit threadwhere userAdditionalPlan69wanted to know about just that when they asked: “What screams ‘I’m a bad parent’?”

1.“Never saying sorry to the kid when the parents make a mistake.”

— dumbtrovert

" I honestly never got this . I apologize to my kid all the metre . Why should they when I wo n’t ? "

— They_Are_Against

A family playing at home, with a parent lifting a laughing toddler in the air while another child and parent watch

2.“Your own children being afraid of you. No child should be afraid of the person that looks after them nearly 24/7.”

— 69narcos

" Also , when a parentpurposelymakes their tiddler afraid of them and is then proud of it . It ’s one affair for your Thomas Kid to be afraid of you for being loud , yelling a lot , parent arguing a lot , but a whole other thing when it ’s deliberate as some sort of disciplinary maneuver . “—faithle97

3.“Ironically, never thinking you’re a bad parent.”

— devon890

" What is incorrect with our son ? ! It ca n’t be us , we ’re awesome ! "

— illustriousocelot _

Child in car seat looks distressed by adult smoking in front, message on secondhand smoke dangers

4.“Mothers who see their own daughters as competition.”

— pizzapocketsogood

" Same with mothers who see their Word ’s married woman as contender . "

— FrenchynNorthAmerica

Two adults and a child sit on a couch with a toy truck on the table in a home setting

5.“Having extremely unreasonable, unrealistic expectations for your child, i.e., maintaining a 5.0 GPA from pre-K to college, somehow getting married at 25 and having 6 kids by 30, getting a six-figure job right after college, taking care of the entire family on their own dime, etc.”

— 7_Rush

6.“Trying to be your child’s friend and not setting structure or expectations or disciplining them.”

— Leeser

" ' We do n’t say no in this house . ' The idea and persuasion behind that phrase I can understand , but the way the majority of parents put this in practice is just always saying , ' Yes . ‘I’ve been in numerous 504 meeting where the behavioural result can be mitigated by boundary . "

— Practicing_Anonymity

Two teenagers using electronic devices on a sofa in a messy living room as an adult stands in the foreground

7.“Using children as pawns in divorces or separations.”

— KarlTremblay

" Alternatively , using the kid as a pawn to keep the wedding together . "

— that_guy2010

Woman looking at phone with bored expression, child in background on swing. They are outdoors, likely at a park

8.“Treating your kid as your therapist.”

— Ugliest - Mod - Ever

" My ma is n’t a spoilt mom but she used to commit in me a lot about my papa . I finally had to tell her , it hurt me too because I was hearing about my parents fighting — I was an adult then too . They had just hit a rough piece and it was really hard on my mom . I think it can be operose once your children become adults to remember boundaries like that . "

— TakethThyKnee

Adult scolding a child, both appear frustrated. The setting is indoors, possibly a dining area

9.“Zero interest in the kid. Doesn’t care what they do or what happens to them as long as they don’t inconvenience them.”

— ThalassaAeliana

10.“As someone who works with elementary-aged kids, being too controlling about everything. Not just when with your kid but trying to control what your kid is around when you aren’t there. There are several parents who have tried to get books taken out of our school library, freaked out that teachers put on movies during indoor recess, or even that we give out cookies for after-school snacks. (We are a Catholic private school owned by the archdiocese and there are so many restrictions.)”

— TheBattyGoddess

11.“Giving your kid everything they want.”

— Expert_Topic5600

" I had permissive parents and am beyond f’d up now . "

— sad_gorl69

Adult explaining to child, child blowing bubbles at table, indoors, educational environment

12.“Constantly yelling and losing it on your kids. How are they going to learn about stability and communication with parents like that?”

— sPLIFFtOOTH

13.“When the older kids have no life or time of their own as they’re too busy raising their siblings.”

— DeviousWhippet

" That was my chum to me and then me to my sis . He had to raise me and made a pile of fault . I learned from them . Then , I had to raise my little sister and I made less mistakes . My sidekick gain he did n’t do a good problem and that I was shinny a lot with genial health . He cease up unhoused and addicted to a clump of stuff and nonsense .

Now he ’s exceedingly toxic and a husk of who he once was . We all struggled with regard . Giving them or receiving them . And I was too young to understand that he thought he f’d me up and that he was to blame . If I could go back I like I ’d be able to let him know he was my wedge . "

Two people sitting closely, embracing, looking out a window, conveying a sense of support and companionship

— A_Confused_Witch

14.“Not showing up for your kids. As someone who’s worked up to three jobs at one time, I’ve never missed a concert, sporting event, or birthday. There are of course circumstances that can’t be bypassed but if you miss more than you attend it’s a you problem.”

— DogInner1553

15.“Blaming the teacher for bad grades.”

— iamthemosin

16.“Being on your phone while the kids are running rampant. I get people need breaks, but at a restaurant I don’t really want kids coming over to my table and messing with food and screaming everywhere.”

— False_Ad636

" I ’ll also add , observe TV or on your phone all day and then complain that kids today do n’t go outside anymore . You ’re the grownup , set up the exercise . If your children see you expand outdoors doing sports / activities somehow they ’ll desire to follow your lead . "

17.“Playing favorites when all kids should be equally loved (not my experience but my boyfriend’s).”

— vivid - Sea-5904

" I believe you ca n’t blame a parent for loving a shaver more than the others , we do n’t control that . But you sure as hell can blame them for treating the children differently base on that . "

— SuperPowerDrill

18.And lastly, “Sheltering children from uncomfortable feelings. You have to let your kids learn to process and handle those feelings. Don’t assume something is too hard for them to understand, I promise they already know something is happening/wrong, so help them understand it.”

" This also go for punishment too . Nobody likes to make their nipper mad or cry . It ’s not fun . run aground Thomas Kyd for a messy room , not getting chores done , or lying but they need those aliveness skill . You ’ve only got a hardened amount of time to learn them to be good , thoughtful , respectful human being . "

— 0rangeMarmalade

You can read the original thread onReddit.

remark : Some response have been edit for duration and/or lucidness .